This is a soundtrack to the inside of most people’s heads:

Amor de Días – Late Mornings from Merge Records on Vimeo.

In the background, two uselessly predictable chords clang together, picked with a jaunty offbeat.

In the foreground, totally distracted, neurotic, indirect, confused and pointless vocals fill in the time, like doodles on a page of notes.

The agenda: me, me, me.

Repeated, infinitely, as the person goes through life — oblivious to others, oblivious to consequences, oblivious even to the quality of what they do. They are only thinking of themselves.

It is their God, their one Ring, their hope, their pride — all for something they did not create and cannot control.

These people are the real bigots.

They are bigoted against reality itself, and the science of the woodsman (figure out what must be done, find out how to make it harmonious, and leave as few traces as possible).

They are bigoted against higher standards, values, goals — anything that conflicts with the eternal me, me, ME.

Ultimately, their songs as their lives are one-note. But they will dress them up in frilly diaphonous vocals and try to conceal that from you, as long as they can.

Narcissists thrive in big, anonymous cities, entertainment-related fields (think reality TV), and leadership situations where they can dazzle and dominate others without having to cooperate or suffer the consequences of a bad reputation. “A narcissist monk would not be good, but to be Kanye West and a narcissist is fantastic,” notes University of South Alabama psychologist Peter Jonason, an expert on mating psychology and the darker side of human nature.

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Narcissists’ language and demeanor is often geared toward one objective: to maintain power in an interaction.

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Among a pool of college students, those reporting higher levels of entitlement tended to be the most popular students in the class. In a separate study, Back and his colleagues found that while students expected charming individuals to like others more, people with “self-centered values” actually dislike others more. – Psychology Today

Narcissists want to make you their servant. They want you to think only of them, as they do.

They will present you their music and make you think it’s hip and cool.

Really, it’s empty and one-note.

Like narcissists.